I have been dabbling with how I want this post to go, what I want to say in this post, how I want to word this post and so much more. It's been honestly a bit of a struggle of how this was all going to go down here on le blog...but I think I finally figured it out, after tons of thinking and contemplation. 

So here we go. 

Let's talk about forgiveness for a second. I don't know about you but I can have a hard time trusting people when they break my trust. I believe that you have my trust and my benefit of the doubt until you prove me wrong or you openly do something to me that defies my trust or breaks my trust in you, you can guarantee that I will trust you and I will always give you the benefit of the doubt at first (sorry for repeating myself a bit here). The thing with trust though is it can leave in an instant one wrong move, one lie, one mean action ect. it can all change everything. 

I also understand that people mess up, and people fall down (trust me I understand that). But the thing with forgiveness is that you have to have faith that the person is going to change and the person is going to change their actions. And since we can't see in the future you have to forgive and give them the benefit of the doubt even though they have given you no reason for you to give them the benefit of the doubt. 

But what makes forgiveness more important is that you have to rise above, you have to be a better person, and you have to love the person who broke your trust. (and not in the gushy mushy I LOVE YOU MORE THAN CHEESE WAY), but more or less in the way of compassion and love. 

The thing that makes forgiveness so powerful is that if you don't forgive and if you don't move on it isn't hurting anyone but yourself. I promise you the person who has apologized has probably moved on and they are probably under the impression that everything is hunky dory with a side of tater tots. The only person who is living with any type of hurt feelings is the person left to forgive. 

And sometimes when it comes to forgiveness, you don't get an apology, but still you have to forgive because again, the only person that is affected at that point is yourself. Being angry/resentful at someone has never done anyone any good. (trust me). I have found that being hurt is okay, being mad is okay too, and being fearful is okay too. But all of those things should be temporary because again, they are only bringing you down. This person who hurt you, or thing that is affecting you can't define you, your relationship, your life or your outlook on people. You can't always assume the worst in people, unicorns don't let other people affect their lives (because the only person that can truly affect a unicorn's life is the unicorns outlook on their life).

So forgive when you are able to, realize that the trust that you need to have in a person or an event will come in time. Nothing is repaired over night, nothing is fixed with one apology). Because the next step is the changed actions, changed actions are the only thing that can really redefine someones trust in another person. Which means you have to give the person a chance to change their behavior/actions. So be a unicorn and give the person a chance to prove themselves, and if they don't prove themselves at that point the only person they are truly hurting is themselves. 

Be kind. Be passionate.Be a unicorn. And realize that no ones perfect, people mess up, and sometimes they need a second chance to prove that they indeed are trust worthy and someone who deserves your trust. But the first step to allowing them to prove themselves is for you to forgive.

Keep Calm and Carry On 

xoxo 

Melissa

If you weren't aware Atlanta (yet again) is covered in ice and snow. You'd think it'd be so exciting right?! *wrong* I think I'd like this snow stuff more if it appeared for about a hour or two and then disappeared. The snow is only technically beautiful and cute until someone drives on it, steps on it or pours sand on it. (also side note the wind is HOWLING today, the wind is trying too hard to make it colder here). 

I've been cooped up now for about three days, and I have been surprisingly productive. Getting done homework, blog shanagains, catching up on tv shows, and laying in bed. (though real talk, I am ready to get out and go do something....but it's not really a case of cabin fever...*yet*) 

So if you are stuck inside your house/apartment/dorm with nothing to do here are some fun things you can do to pass the time (if you have power) 

1. Watch netflix and enjoy the fact that you're bored and you have nothing to do....because in about a day or two it will be back to school/work. 

2. Bake something or try a new pinterest recipe based off of what you have in your fridge/pantry 

3. Have a dance party with some loud music

4. Do your homework? (I mean this one isn't preferred but necessary) 

5. Read some new blogs 

If you DON'T have power here are some fun things you can do too! 

1. Play a card game or a bored game. 

2. Go for a walk (just don't slip) 

3. Take naps on naps on naps 

4. Journal

5. If you're by people play a game of would you rather 

Basically there are tons of things you can do with this snowpocolypse!! You just have to be a little creative. Also if you have power CRANK UP THAT FROZEN SOUNDTRACK AND GET TO GROOVIN. 

Keep Calm and Carry On 

xoxo 

Melissa 

Hey all you pretty people it is Monday (it's totally Tuesday I'm late posting...sue me!)...this Monday has been insane in the membrane so I am just now getting to sit down to write some blog posts. On the flip side I don't have school for the next two days because apparently Snowmadagon 2.0 is up and coming. Real talk I saw a guy with SIX gallons of milk (slow down Glen Coco!!! Save some for the rest of Atlanta). I also have seen so many pictures of grocery stores completely wiped out.

In other exciting news, if you've been around for a while you probably noticed that things look a little more spiffy around here! I spent almost all of my Sunday doing a blog redesign and it was beyond worth it (say hello to Daily Chaos 2.0!)

So since it's Monday Tuesday you get a little peak of what I have been loving this week! I am really excited for this week because *again* there were so many things that I wanted to post here (but I am going for the top five so this is going to be a fun yet tough post.).

1. So, if you watch the show Nashville you should have heard this song from last weeks episode, if you haven't watched the show recently (or if you haven't watched the show at all) you should still listen to this song. It is basically my new power anthem. I keep playing it telling myself that this time I am going to be strong and I am not going to let people or incidents in my life bring me down (because I am a unicorn) but also because I am a strong individual, and if you knock me down I will come back ten times stronger saying "you tried and you failed, you can try again or you can give up because you aren't bringing me down any time soon". Click play and feel empowered by this amazing song.

2. For about a year now I have been following this online journal of peoples writing submissions, it's called Thought Catalog. Usually I am procrastinating my school work by reading articles that people have submitted on Thought Catalog and a lot of them speak to me like they know me (others not so much), but the ones that do speak to me are totally worth reading over and over again. To be honest I never get sick of them. Here are some of my favorites 

Five Great Pointers To Have Less Anxiety

Fear 

I'm Not An Introvert And I'm Not An Extrovert, Either (And Neither Are You)

3. Chocolate Croissants: Do NOT get me started on these things *too late*, I had one last Wednesday and let me tell you it was the best and worst decisions that I made all week long. Starbucks just recently bought out a pastry shop and they have all new pastries and this one is by far my favorite (count on the starbucks/coffee junkie to find the most addicting pastry they have). 

4. This quote is one of my favorites by far. It's very simple and very to the point "think happy. be happy." I feel like we spend so much time worrying and getting stuck in negative thought that we forget that all of those negative thoughts make us a little more negative. And because I wanted to try something new I made the background for an iphone 5 (I am just now playing around with this so please let me know if it's sized funny!) 

Public Service Announcement For ALL iphone users with the iOS7 update....READ THIS. If you have been trying to make pictures of you and your friends/you and your boyfriend, or just a picture in general (not made for iphone) you probably noticed it zooms in very very close cutting out people and making the picture appear very close and it's just one zoomed in mess (usually). Well, don't fear, you can fix this!!!

Simply go to Settings ---> General ----> accessibility ---->Reduce motion ---> change from off to ON then boom you have normal backgrounds and a faster phone. 

5. This song is a great study song/blogging song/relaxing song. I found it while sitting around studying with Pandora on. Go ahead, press play and try it out. You won't be disappointed. 

That's all for today folks!

Keep Calm and Carry On

xoxo 

Melissa