Risks...there are levels of risks that you can take. You can take a small risk however usually in return you will receive a small reward.

Sometimes you just have to jump off of the cliff and pray that all turns out okay.
Sometimes you have to have faith in yourself that at the end of the day you made the right decision.
Whether the risk be illegal like speeding and getting a ticket.
Maybe its a really good risk like going out on a date with this guy you have had your eye on but you're really nervous.
I have been taking risks recently, I have been trying to see what life is really about.
..Not that I will ever figure that out anyways. However, it's a good dream that one day I will know what this whole life thing is really about.

Sometimes risks cause us to fall down, we fall hard. And we learn something from the reward. We learn as we fall we have to get back up...and in the process of getting back up we are able to learn more about life, we are able to become stronger people.

An example from my life recently was wondering if I should take this internship that was a gift practically. I was weighing all of my pros and cons and in the end there were more pros than cons...of course the cons were evident and they were kind of a bummer...however the risk was going to provide me with a greater reward which was I was going to be able to take two steps forward after I finished the internship. And I would be bettering myself. It seemed in the end like the perfect opportunity. Of course at the time it was up in the air whether or not I'd get the internship. I still had to go through the interview process.

I prepared for the interview, found out as much about the company as I could, picked out the perfect outfit, had two practice interviews with friends. I made sure I was ready, and I was nervous, oh yes, I was very nervous but I was also prepared and confident. What an odd combination of emotions when you think about it, however it made sense to me.

At the end of the day...I got the internship, the risk was great but the reward was just as great. I could not be happier. I took a risk that I was unsure of, I made different plans, I changed my views and I took the risk.
I could not be happier with my decision. While there will always be cons....at the end of the day the pros outweigh the cons.

So take risks, jump off of a hypothetical mountain and see where you land, sometimes the risks are what better us as people.

Do you take risks? Have you had good and bad risks?

Keep Calm and Carry On
xoxo
Melissa

"When I was in elementary school, I was pretty sure that eighth grade meant adulthood. The eighth graders were the oldest kids in the school, and their classroom was down a long hallway. I pictured the hallway as a golden path to the future. I was sure the eighth graders had it all figured out. Later, I extended that to the high school seniors, then the college seniors, then, people who were 25. Now, finally, I can see that there is no moment in life when it all makes sense. Nor is there any real marker that someone DOES know what the fuck's going on -- an engagement or a house does not mean that someone feels complete and content. At 27, I can talk to my parents and see that while they've done a lot of amazing things with their lives, there are still doubts and insecurities that they're holding on to and trying to make sense of. Answers don't come with age. Age provides perspective, but life wasn't designed with a point at which it definitively gets easier. It's up and down, all the time for everyone. We're just doing our best, all of us, and that's ok."
--Five Things I Know at 27 

Relationships are not so easily defined but through out our life they start to mean different things:

If you were to ask 16 year old me what a relationship was all about I'd tell you that it's just supposed to be the frills, and going to movies with someone and being able to say oh look that's my boyfriend. 

as if I was merely searching for a title.
However, a relationship is like finding the ray of sunshine at the end of a very dark tunnel.
In order to have a successful relationship you have to love your self....like really love yourself not just say you do. I know I used to say of course I love myself! But then I'd find something wrong with me, my hair, my personality, ect. It was like there was a lack of acceptance.
Then one day it was practically magic, I realized I loved all the little things about myself and that they made me unique and sure I am a bit of a workaholic, sure I am quirky, but I accept and love those things about myself.
This is my step one to finding and maintaining a successful relationship.
The second is finding someone who is my best friend and my boyfriend.
Sometimes people are looking for the title, the status what ever you want to call it. Yeah it's nice to have, but at the end of the day there has to be friendship, someone who knows that you don't like it when someone puts their phone in their bra like its a pouch, come on ladies lets have some class. Your phone stays in your hand, in a purse or in your jeans back pocket...but your bra...come on! He needs to be able to watch a show with you and just be. It's not about the title its about the team effort and the companionship. It's about being able to sit in complete silence and not feel uncomfortable.
The title is merely a title, that's like taking on the CEO of a company for the title and not doing any work to get there or while maintaining your very high position in a company.
You can't just sit around being CEO of a company there is work that comes with this "title".
Which is why a relationship is work not just a title.

"The relationship between husband and wife should be one of closest friends" -- B.R. Ambedkar


Are you in a relationship? Are you guys best friends and a couple? Just things to think about. Or if you aren't in a relationship what do you want out of one what do they mean to you?


Keep Calm and Carry On.
xoxo
Melissa