When you go out on a date, especially a first date you put on your best game face you don't step out of the lines that you have set for yourself, you try your hardest not to act as weird as you would around your best friend, you spend about an hour or two getting ready for your date and making sure there is not a hair on your head out of place and that your outfit shows that you know how to dress yourself but that you also arent too high maintenance. okay now STOP.

You are ready, you have primped and prepped yourself for the date, you are ready..or as ready as you can be. Some of you may even have your note cards ready for possible conversation topics if it ends up being an awful date and the best conversation you can come up with is staring at eachother making bug eyes hoping that he will say something soon or your best friend (who is now apparently pregnant) calls you and tells you she needs emotional support because her boyfriend sucks and she doesn't know what to do. 

If you have ever gone on a bad date you know there is nothing worse then you thinking its a bad date and him thinking its a really good date and while you are not interested in him he is VERY interested in you. 

HOWEVER it seems that in a sense women are easier (most of the time) to get a vibe off of whether or not she is into you or not, she will text you more words, she will seem genuinely interested in what you have to say and your interests...even if she has never heard of your interests. 

However. The world of guys. They are on the opposite side of the spectrum most of the time. They are harder to read than Arabic or Chinese calligraphy. 

How can you tell if a guy is really into you, how can you tell what he wants. Men may be harder to read however they all kind of are wired the same way in some sort of fashion. 

How many times have you texted a guy you like and never gotten a response back and then the fall off planet earth and you never hear from them for weeks or even a month. And you would rather think....okay maybe he didn't get my text, maybe he is just really busy, maybe his dog died and he is grieving, he could have died, yep that's it he died. We jump from idea to idea, most of which are irrational and quite silly. However that doesn't stop you from coming up with all of these exaggerated reasons why he never called you or texted you back. 

However you know exactly why he didn't call you or text you back...he is just not that into you. You may not like the fact that he is not that into you, and how he handled the fact that he is not that into you. 

However some guys just need a little teaching to when it comes to how to be nice about it and not just avoiding the person.

Basically how do you handle such a situation? You realize that not every guy is right for you and not every girl is right for that guy...if that were the case then we would find our "soulmate" a lot easier. But don't get discouraged because a few dates went poorly or a guy turned you down or told you that he just didn't like you. It's not the end of the world and you learn what type of person you want to be with when you have a couple crappy dates or when a guy just tells you no. 

So if he doesn't respond to your text and falls off planet earth know you arent alone for one and second, he obviously was not worth your time...AND it doesn't make you any less valuable or beautiful because a couple guys here or there don't want to continue on dating you. 

Just pick yourself up and put yourself back out there. 

And if all else fails....get a couple of cats and start a cat lady life...but please, use that as your last resort. Once you go cat lady you can't go back. 

Keep Calm and Carry On! 

Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could.”

—	Louise Erdrich (The Painted Drum)

The rules of loving you.

So sometimes late at night I am up thinking about what life is really all about. Where am I supposed to be? And all these other questions that make me wonder what exactly am I going to do, am I meant to have a relationship. Is my relationship just going to be with fashion? Can I find someone who I can stand to be around and can stand to be around me while finding me attractive.

So here goes my list::

1. Learn that you are beautiful

2. Understand that you can be happy with out a man

3. Some people are not meant to be in relationships

4. I have so many great friends who are single and know their place

5. You need to make myself happy first. 

6. If a guy wants you he will come...if not he isnt worth your efforts anyways.

7. Don't be a smelly perfume that comes on too strong

8. Strength is more than muscle it is control of yourself and emotions

9. However dont try to control everything, it's impossible

10. It is okay to cry

11. People are humans and they make mistakes

12. Keep yourself well and you will feel good about yourself as a person

13. You don't need a boyfriend

14. Life is full of choices try and make good ones for the most part. 

18. Give yourself enough time to heal you will know when you find the right guy. DON'T SETTLE

19. Priorities: school and work always come first

20. Tell yourself everyday that you are beautiful 

21. Remember one mistake doesn't ruin everything.

22. SMILE it will prevent having to use botox!!!!

Keep calm and Carry on! 

Mel

hope it was a good monday! and if not look...Corgis! 

How I am prioritizing school and life

Recently I have been thinking of ways to make school and life a bit less stressful. Trying to brainstorm ways for life to be a bit more manageable with out stress and anxiety. And I think a lot of other people wish they could try some of these things and figure it out. So I am going to make a list of ways that have helped me..

1. Have a planner! : I know that some people claim that they can use your phones and if you can great! But actually use it. My planner has everything important in it not just school work it goes from what I need to get done for the day and also my school work and then little things that should be done by the end of the week. It helps me feel like I can cross things off of my day so I know I have accomplished more than I thought. It's giving yourself credit for what you did for the day as well.

I have however found that having a cute planner makes it easier for me to use it...I have a lilly pulitzer planner and adore it. I use the stickers to mark off important days and exams. And I use both the weekly and the monthly. There is so much space to write in the planner and its totally adorable. 

Organized and Cute? Double yes. 

2. Have ME time! : Be selfish for a couple hours or an hour of your day. It helps keep you mentally sane I need a couple of hours to get on tumblr and reblog or watch netflix and tumblr. Or read a book. Anything that I would like to do...I do it. It helps me realize that I can have a life and still succeed at school.

3. Prioritize, Prioritize, Prioritize  Make sure that you do what you need to do first and this sounds like commons sense but sometimes the most important thing is the least fun thing to do but it needs to be done.

4. Also realize that every day is a new day: If one day is a total bust realize that you can still aprricate the good days. Don't take those days for granted they can be the best days that show you that the bad days will end

There is a light to the end of every tunnel no matter how dark. 

Off to do my work now! 

Xoxox

Mel

I'm addicted to starbucks.

I need it.

Must keep calm and carry on....

Its that day we have all been waiting for...it's election day.
Polling lines are long and people are very on edge.

Make your decision heard but don't make it offensive.
At the end of the day politics are not life or death...if you think so you may want to get your priorities in check.
However its amazed me how much politics are affecting peoples friendships, and their day to day lives...and even who they think is a good celebrity or not.

It's as if we are willing to put friendships on the line for politics...and this day only comes once every four years so why get so inflamed over something thats one day out of 365 days and only happens once every 1460 days?

If you are that passinoate about politcs you may need to find a hobby because honestly.

Presidents are just people, they are people who we want to lead us in the right direction.

Yes you can be a democrat or a republican however at the end of the day they are just another person like you and I.

It's one day out of the year so please try and take a chill pill or seven in some cases!

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Keep Calm and Carry On!

xoxox

Melissa

There are so many reasons to smile but in case you were having problems thinking of some...Here are ten reasons why you should smile and always be positive. 

Happy sunday!

xoxox

Melissa 

seeing perks of being a wallflower tonight....should I prepared to cry like a little girl.
Let the results come in soon!

It is the only thing we have the power to do. 

Red Starbucks Cup, I Fill you up....Let's have a party.

This morning was the wonderful surprise to realize that one it was November first...Where has the year gone.
So much has happened in 2012 but I'm saving everything I have learned for sometime late December when the year is really almost over.

Anyways the second most amazing thing I woke up to this morning was a red starbucks cup and an eggnog latte.

It is so the little things in life that make us happy.
Anyways.

It was literally magical and all I could do was dance.  What more could this day have to offer! I guess I will find out! And to top it all off.....I have a bunch of school work to do.
What even.
I am in a boat with all other college kids who are heading to the end of their semester.
No sleep, more coffee, more red bull, oh and more red starbucks cups.