He's just not that into you?

Tuesday, November 27, 2012

When you go out on a date, especially a first date you put on your best game face you don't step out of the lines that you have set for yourself, you try your hardest not to act as weird as you would around your best friend, you spend about an hour or two getting ready for your date and making sure there is not a hair on your head out of place and that your outfit shows that you know how to dress yourself but that you also arent too high maintenance. okay now STOP.

You are ready, you have primped and prepped yourself for the date, you are ready..or as ready as you can be. Some of you may even have your note cards ready for possible conversation topics if it ends up being an awful date and the best conversation you can come up with is staring at eachother making bug eyes hoping that he will say something soon or your best friend (who is now apparently pregnant) calls you and tells you she needs emotional support because her boyfriend sucks and she doesn't know what to do. 

If you have ever gone on a bad date you know there is nothing worse then you thinking its a bad date and him thinking its a really good date and while you are not interested in him he is VERY interested in you. 
HOWEVER it seems that in a sense women are easier (most of the time) to get a vibe off of whether or not she is into you or not, she will text you more words, she will seem genuinely interested in what you have to say and your interests...even if she has never heard of your interests. 

However. The world of guys. They are on the opposite side of the spectrum most of the time. They are harder to read than Arabic or Chinese calligraphy. 

How can you tell if a guy is really into you, how can you tell what he wants. Men may be harder to read however they all kind of are wired the same way in some sort of fashion. 

How many times have you texted a guy you like and never gotten a response back and then the fall off planet earth and you never hear from them for weeks or even a month. And you would rather think....okay maybe he didn't get my text, maybe he is just really busy, maybe his dog died and he is grieving, he could have died, yep that's it he died. We jump from idea to idea, most of which are irrational and quite silly. However that doesn't stop you from coming up with all of these exaggerated reasons why he never called you or texted you back. 

However you know exactly why he didn't call you or text you back...he is just not that into you. You may not like the fact that he is not that into you, and how he handled the fact that he is not that into you. 
However some guys just need a little teaching to when it comes to how to be nice about it and not just avoiding the person.

Basically how do you handle such a situation? You realize that not every guy is right for you and not every girl is right for that guy...if that were the case then we would find our "soulmate" a lot easier. But don't get discouraged because a few dates went poorly or a guy turned you down or told you that he just didn't like you. It's not the end of the world and you learn what type of person you want to be with when you have a couple crappy dates or when a guy just tells you no. 

So if he doesn't respond to your text and falls off planet earth know you arent alone for one and second, he obviously was not worth your time...AND it doesn't make you any less valuable or beautiful because a couple guys here or there don't want to continue on dating you. 

Just pick yourself up and put yourself back out there. 

And if all else fails....get a couple of cats and start a cat lady life...but please, use that as your last resort. Once you go cat lady you can't go back. 

Keep Calm and Carry On! 

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