It Takes a Village

Thursday, August 28, 2014

You know what term honestly grinds my gears: "blogger famous" like what does that even mean?? Does it mean that you are getting so many blog comments?? Does it mean that you get so many page views?? Does it mean that you have so many sponsors??? That's great that you get a ton of page views and that's great that you also get a ton of blog comments. But, isn't blogging all about community, what if you aren't blog famous but you have a great community? What if your community is a mixture of those we call blog famous and those we don't???

When I started blogging I didn't even know that "blog famous" was a thing and I had no idea that blogging had such an amazing community. I started blogging because I loved writing and I wanted a place to tell someone *read anyone* about what I liked, my shopping finds, or anything that I wanted to talk about, whatever that may be. If you told me two years ago that I'd be making some of my best friends off the internet on twitter, Instagram and this corner of the internet I would probably say no to you and carry on with my life. However, now that I have met some amazing people thanks to my blog I can honestly say I don't know what my life would be like with out them. Are there bloggers that I "fangirl" over?? Goodness yes, but for me it's a fangirling moment like"oh god I want to be friends with her, what do I say to be friends with her?? Is she going to think I am weird for tweeting her??" Part of me thinks that this fear comes from thinking that someone is so blog famous that they won't want to be "blog friends" with me and then that just makes me feel sad because I want to create my own community with people that I think would be good in my life.I sometimes feel like the term blogger famous takes away from the whole point of blogging. Which is that you should be making a community with your blog of people who you never thought you'd meet.

I am trying to teach myself that it doesn't matter how  many page views you get to have great blog friends. In my world I'd like to think that blogging isn't a popularity contest because it shouldn't be.

If someone were to ask me what a perk of blogging is I would tell them that I have met so, so many amazing people. Sure a blogger could get 20+ comments on their blog but maybe your comment stands out to them and because of that a relationship forms. It shouldn't matter how many comments you get or how many followers you get as long as you make a community. Because in my opinion bloggging takes a village, it takes people to help you get inspiration and it's always nice to have people who just get the blogging world. For all you know you could make some of your best friends by simply starting a blog and commenting on peoples posts (I know I did)

I may not get thousands of pages views or have thousands of followers but I have to tell you that I have made my own village and for that I am so thankful to my blog.

So take a risk and reach out to someone that you find "blog famous" for all you know they could be your new friend.

Keep Calm and Carry On


  1. I could not agree more with you about how blogging shouldn't be a popularity contest! The best thing I have gained through blogging is the incredible sense of community. P.S. you're very much a part of that. Thanks for being you!

  2. Blogging is so weird to me for this very reason! Like, I love meeting people. I love talking to like minded people. That's why I blog. I LOVE just talking and sharing and if I get one comment I'm excited! Loved this post, Melissa!

  3. I love the blogging community because I have made so many blog friends! I totally agree with you that you have to create your own village. When I see someone new comment on my blog I try to make sure to go and check them out. We all started with zero followers and zero comments and to see even just one comment always makes my day!

  4. It's hard sometimes not to compare myself and my blog to those that get a thousand million page views/shares/comments, BUT that's not the reason I started blogging in the first place! I love my little blog space, and I've loved getting to share my thoughts and getting to know other bloggers! Great post!

  5. I've never actually heard anyone refer to themselves as "blog famous"--though I've heard lots of bloggers call other bloggers "blog famous", either in a derogatory or a positive way...sometimes it's hard to tell.

  6. Blogging does have a wonderful community and I have meet some amazing people that I am enjoying getting to know the more I read their blogs and they come to visit mine. I have made friends through blogging that I would most likely never meet in person. That is a really neat factor of blogging. :)

  7. Blogging is a great community and I've met great people on here. I just blog to blog and enjoy doing so... :-)

  8. I started blogging for the same reasons you did, and while it's nice to get comments and know people enjoyed a post, for me, it's really all about the blog friends and meeting people like you :) Besides, I see a lot of "blog famous" people who might have a fan girl following, but don't seem to actually have friends. I'll take friends over fan girls any day!

  9. I couldn't agree more. Quality over quantity anyyyy day!