Real Talk Wednesday: Relationships

Wednesday, September 4, 2013

Okay as you all know I recently hopped off of the single girl train. I got off at a stop and found a guy who is pretty much the best thing since a sliced bagel *or bread*. Moving on, yes I hopped off of the single girl swag train but, the relationship train is something that is new to me! I mean seriously, it is a bit different some days. I have someone to talk to about pointless things (yeah, I know you can do it with your friends but this is different) I can't explain it, so don't hate.

  Oh hey 

 I mean, singles life is something I had become very comfortable with. Come home, eat, watch *five* Netflix movies, or a whole Netflix series, and fall asleep with my face in a pint of my two boyfriends Ben and Jerry (too much?)...maybe but I don't really care! I also had gotten to know myself so much in my time of being single, I was actually single for a while before I met the guy I am with now. I learned so much about who I was, and what I wanted. I also took some time to find out what exactly I wanted out of life (even though I think I have an idea, I still have no clue!) I know, that doesn't make sense.

So, I got a ticket to hop on the relationship train. The ride so far has been a bit interesting (a good interesting, so don't get worried) 

Oh look there's us being all sorts of special 

This past Friday we were sitting on the sofa, and I asked him if he was used to being in a relationship and he told me he was *still* getting used to it. (but, I am too!!) *it's only been two months*. He told me it was weird knowing that he had someone that cared for him that he cared for as well. (oh hey, do I smell a healthy relationship?? I think I do!) 

What makes our relationship so special to me, is that he is my best friend, and my boyfriend. I mean this with all seriousness. I can tell this boy *man*....*person* anything. I sometimes say some weird things, and when I say sometimes I mean always. My filter is pretty thin...I can use it when I absolutely *have-to* but, if I feel comfortable enough around you, I am sorry *not sorry* that you are going to hear about all of these random things that I think about. For example, today I was thinking about what it would be like if Beyonce and I were best friends and we made music videos together....yeah, that would be fabulous. But we both tell each other some interesting things and we laugh at our mistakes and we happen to have a lot of fun doing nothing together. (yes, that is totally possible). ...I guess if he was the bagel I would be the cream cheese (is that too cheesy?...well boil some noodles and grab some kraft because I like it!)

He accepts me for who I am, who I was, and who I want to be. (and I accept him for all the same). He tolerates my hangry moments, he eats my food, (it's good food, don't worry), he makes me laugh over silly details and he listens to me. 
Now even though I've hopped on the relationship train I have not forgotten about the single girl train. I learned so much from taking some time to myself. I am a better, stronger person and I am not going to forget that. The only difference is that I replaced Ben and Jerry with a human. (sorry boys, you were making me look like a chunky's time we spent some time apart). 

Also, #realtalk you should NEVER have to fake yourself in a relationship. If you forget what is going on in the world outside of your relationship, you may want to check yourself before you wreck yourself because that is a RED flag, not a yellow flag (like oh hey slow down), but a red flag (meaning STOP ALL THE THINGS and reevaluate where you are in this relationship). Never forget who you are and who you want to be. I don't know about you but I like myself too much to lose everything I've worked for.

So, even though I am in a relationship...I am still me, and I am still living my dreams and my life....I just have someone to share it all with.

What do you think makes a relationship healthy? Let me know below!

Keep Calm and Carry On!


  1. Oh my gosh... I'm so happy for you twinny. Seriously. You deserve happiness. Love you!!!

  2. Great post - my relationship is very similar. We're best friends and we love doing nothing and we are SO weird. haha. But we're both still our own people, too, with our own interests, etc. But yeah... Congrats!!